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Psycholoog Maarkedal: Kleine gelukskes

isabelle@solta.be — Sat, 21 Aug 2021 10:53:06 +0000

Just a few moments in the blog inspiration around the ‘Little Luckies’!...they are indeed there...in every day....but you have to want to see them and sometimes put in a little more effort.

If you pay attention, then treat yourself With little ‘pluses. E.g.: The sunshine that, as I am writing this, gives wonderful warmth on my face / that super delicious hot cup of coffee that accompanied me this morning at the start of the day / that coveted parking spot in front of my car that just opened up as I was approaching the practice/ ...

There is also a very nice booklet with ‘#little Lucky‘ as a title (written by Lynn Van Royen. Heb no shares in this 😉). That does help and inspire in a fun and approachable way to increase alertness to this I think.

Ok, indeed, this will not solve everyday problems. But on the other hand...it doesn't cost any money, and only one little effort to create a nice yield harvest for yourself.

It certainly makes everyday life a little sweeter.

I am already a fan 🙂

Isabelle

psychologist - psychotherapist

author of this blog

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Psycholoog Maarkedal: Verschil tussen verwachtingen en hoop

isabelle@solta.be — Thu, 12 Aug 2021 11:23:00 +0000

Hope versus expectations

There is, in my opinion, a large difference between the concept of hope and the concept of expectations. Only...we often don't dwell on that. At least...I caught myself very hard this past year thinking that these are two completely different concepts.

In many cases, I think it is better to have hope, rather than expectations. Hope often gives courage and strength while we are well in touch with reality. Expectations can be calming when they are realistic and low...but often lead us to disappointment and frustration when they are too tight or too high.

I light it difference briefly on the basis of personal findings:

Hope

Last year, my sister was the victim of a serious traffic accident, which put her in the hospital and left her in a coma for several weeks. It was unclear if she would make it. If she would make it, we did not know what damage there would be. What would become of my sister? Would I ever be able to speak to her decently again if she came through this. Let us say that at the outset there was great helplessness. No control...no control over the course.

Setting expectations was not an issue at all. Only hope That she would still be there the next day. We had to leave it all somewhat in the hands of fate...and of course in the knowledge and experience of the medical staff. With that hope also went a lot gratitude paired. Every morning I called my mother with an anxious heart (because only she and my brother-in-law were allowed to visit and be contacted by corona in the beginning). And every day I was also grateful that another day was allowed and that the values remained stable. Long story short my sister got through it happily at ease. We are big lucky guys!

Hope was in itself a important support in the story. We were hoping for something that realistic could be, but which we realized we ourselves had no control over. We imagined the probable, and drew strength from that. We saw reality (my sister lying motionless in intensive care) and hoped she would pull through. There was also a constant state of readiness in the story. We did realize very well that we could get bad news at any time...no expectations!

Expectations

It's incredible, if you start paying attention, how many expectations (rather than hopes) we set in our daily lives. Somehow normal, because we are custom and like to have some predictability. For example, I am currently expecting that my husband will come home soon and we will have something to eat together. The chances are pretty good that that expectation will be met.

We certainly need our expectations in themselves. But ‘the devil is in the tail. Rather, expectations are harmful when they non-realistic his or a lower probability have to take place. Then you get disappointments and frustrations much faster.

A simple example presented itself this week. During a conversation with my husband, he suddenly looked at the sky very disappointed. He was expecting beautiful weather, and now...he would not be able to go cycling. He had been looking forward to it.

Realizing the difference between the two is very helpful. Because...we still decide for ourselves what we think (thoughts are not facts). And if we are allowed to be a bit at the helm here, it is helpful to be able to ‘switch’ in this.

Isabelle

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Inter-actie Praktijk psychotherapie Maarkedal

isabelle@solta.be — Sun, 01 Aug 2021 10:08:37 +0000

What is practice inter-action?

Practice Inter-action in Maarkedal is a practice for psychotherapy. Within this, I work as a licensed psychologist and licensed psychotherapist. My absolute goal is to move people forward with problems that may come along the path. This can be about acute care issues. Very often, however, it is about concerns that have been lingering for years. People when they come along are really asking to finally be relieved of these burdens. It is therefore my absolute mission to work on this with heart and soul.

What problems can you come here for?

Within my practice inter-action in Maarkedal (Schorisse) I work around a diversity of problems (anxiety, depression, burn-out, mourning, trauma, life questions,...). In recent years I have received a striking number of questions related to anxiety problems. This has to do with the point that cognitive behavioral therapy is a strong therapeutic direction to address these problems. This led me to start an additional practice a few years back: group practice Solta at Oudenaarde. This one specializes in all problems related to anxiety. Very pleasant is that we work together with different colleagues. Indeed, we constantly reinforce each other through the additional knowledge we gain and exchange with each other.

What emphases do I find important in therapy?

For me, the therapeutic processes are real collaborative processes which I hold in very high regard. We have to be good on each other aligned To get well ahead. So our interaction is really a very important key in this!

In this, it is a very conscious choice for me to work from a cognitive-behavioral vision. This therapeutic movement suited me the most because throughout your process you are always perfectly can interpret what you are doing are and why. This is by no means a rigid fact, but does give us together a good view on where we are in our process and why. There is more than enough space anyway to vent and catch our breath, and to go through the process at our own pace. But we don't have conversations to have conversations and not know at the end what exactly we did.

That fact gives the necessary peace, security and the trust along both sides.

Sometimes cognitive behavioral therapy is unfortunately mistakenly viewed as counseling where you are only given ‘homework assignments’ to fulfill. So this is it anything but! If at all we are asked to do something between sessions, it is embedded within our broad collaborative process and thus does not come across as at all artificial as is sometimes posited.

More insight into my working methods can be found here back.

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